When a child has given up, it is because he has failed frequently enough that he will fight doing anything that might produce another failure. The resulting behaviors should not be our focus. We must zero in on the underlying sense of discouragement and helplessness and purpose to do anything in our power to help.
When at first we don't succeed with a child, we must NOT try and try again using techniques that have already failed to bring good results! Instead, try some radically different approaches, and thus avoid bringing renewed failure to the child. What follows are some ideas on how to take a different approach.
If we can get a child who has failed repeatedly to try one more time, it is supremely important that he achieve success with the new approaches to learning you are using. What follows are some suggestions for ensuring success for your discouraged child.
We often speak about children as “smart,” “struggling,” or “learning disabled.” The problem with this is that there is room for a whole lot of error, and when we have subconsciously determined what group a child falls into, we may not make the effort to find out what exactly is causing a lack of success.